Sometimes people stay in an unhappy marriage until the resentment builds and they feel they have no choice but to divorce. They may have tried to communicate their needs or concerns, but the efforts failed to produce change or even sometimes made matters worst. Therefore, they give up voicing their unhappiness and simply go with the flow hoping something will change and the problems will be somehow solved. Then there are those who “try” with everything they have to make the marriage work before they leave. They may be accustomed to solving problems and feel they owe it to the marriage to try to find solutions to the challenges before they throw in the towel.
Most couples rarely or don’t seek marriage counseling. They are driven by feeling or the ideology that they will and can navigate this terrain successfully. Additionally, when the marriage evolves into less than favorable conditions, they may try to resolve the situation far too long before seeking help. If and when they do, the marriage is in the danger zone and all too often ends in divorce. In essence, they didn’t really give their marriage a fair chance by working with someone skilled, trained and most importantly experienced in maintaining a healthy marriage. Succeeding in marriage not only takes problem solving skills, but couples relationship skills that few of us have naturally or have been taught. We may think we are doing all we can to resolve the conflict, but counseling with the right counselor can be of great benefit in teaching new ways of solving problems and meeting each other needs.
* You will learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy manner.
* You will learn communication skills that will help you not only listen to your spouse but, to also process what your spouse is saying.
*You will learn how to state your needs clearly and openly without resentment, anger or by making demands.
*You will learn how to be assertive without being offensive. Both spouses need to be able to talk about their concerns without fear of hurting the other spouse or becoming defensive.
*Marriage counseling offers a safe environment for expressing oneself. Being able to communicate your feelings in session may be all you and your spouse need to begin the process of understanding and change. You may find that your spouse is more than willing to work together to solve the problems in the marriage and discover opportunities for growth and healing.
*You will develop a deeper understanding of who your spouse is and what his/her needs are. Better yet, you will learn more deeply who you are and what your needs are; you'll be positioned to discover that your marriage is designed to be fulfilling to you and your souse.
*You will develop relationship skills needed to maintain a fulfilling marriage. In therapy you can learn those skills while having your therapist monitor your progress, mediating conflict and giving objective feedback.
*Please contact Higher Heights for more information regarding Marriage / Couple’s counseling *
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